Singer and song stylist Steven Chera shares his uplifting tale on the upside of love.
About six years ago, my wife, Susan, decided that she wanted out of our marriage. She couldn’t give me a good reason, so of course, I worked hard over a period of time to try to change her mind to no avail. So I moved out of the house, and temporarily moved to my daughter’s house until I found my own place. I moved on and made all sorts of adjustments for this big life change.
Then one day after a year of separation, I get a call from Susan. “Hi, can I see you, can we have dinner?” This is after over a year of divorce proceedings, back and forth court appearances, everything you do leading to a final divorce. (And it was very expensive too, but that’s what it is.) Just when we’re ready to sign the final papers, she gets me on the phone to reignite our relationship and reconsider our marriage. It was hard for me, since I had moved on and I mourned her loss and everything. She eventually convinced me to reconsider.
It took me a year to realise that maybe it’s not so bad to go back to the marriage. After all we have children together and a pretty good history together, so I went for it and went back to the marriage the second time around, and we’re still married to this day. As you get older you realise in life to accept things as they are and just go with it.
